“Every BIG thing begins with a small step” – and so it happened with The Happiness Circle.
Doing business means interacting with people, mastering relationships. Pretty simple, but most business people neglect that fact. They focus too much on the job and on the money, using people as step-stones for creating results. It should be the other way: Using businesses as a step-stone to improve relationships with people for creating the ultimate lifestyle.
That was what I started pondering on back in 2004. I figured that the business I was involved in was not just about the money – and therefore it should not be measured in financial results only. In my very first thoughts, I tried to figure out what areas in life are affected by the business I was involved in – and what aspects are generally important to a person’s life to be happy. While it is true in most cases that NO money makes you unhappy, it is false to assume that money makes you happy. An endless amount of rich, but unhappy and unfulfilled people out there is evidence enough:
Money alone can’t buy you happiness.
Many thought processes, conversations and discussions later with business partners and friends, I found that there are a total of 6 aspects in life that determine a persons happiness. I put them in a circle with a smiley in the middle and started sharing these insights with my audiences around the globe. My intention at this point was to show them how our business positively affects all aspects of life, not just the money aspect.
It became obvious that the aspects would somehow correspond to each other. If one changes for the better or the worse, most likely the others would be affected. It was in 2005, while attending a lecture at BYU University in Orem, Utah, when I found my next step: The professor spoke about “Rubber Balls & Crystal Balls” people juggle with throughout their lives. While Rubber Balls would bounce back when you drop them, Crystal Balls break into 1000’s of pieces. I liked the analogy and looked at the circle, trying to apply this to the 6 aspects. It instantly became clear what the Rubber Balls and what the Crystal Balls were – and this insight was very exciting. Interesting enough, I did not even need to change the order on how I had always drawn the 6 aspects into the circle. They were (a coincidence?) perfectly positioned already. 3 Cystal Balls at the bottom and 3 Rubber Balls at the top.
I felt I had discovered something of real value and started looking at the correlation between the Rubber Balls and the Crystal Balls. I understood that the Crystal Balls were far more precious than the Rubber Balls, but it was obvious that people are living their lives mainly focused on chasing Rubber Balls.
Why don’t people know better?
Maybe some really do. But they are tempted chasing their Rubber Balls as these are much more “visible” to others. “My job, my lifestyle, my money…” – our society categorizes people based on those aspects that reflect what we call “outer wealth”. People see (and judge others by) their home, their car, their job and draw conclusions about their finances. Unfortunately, this is then your “assigned” social status. No wonder why people go for – and measure others – by their “status symbols”. They don’t look (and care) so much on their and others “inner wealth”, i.e. how healthy they are, what their relationships look like and what they do to grow into a better person. So we tend to “please” ourselves and others by focusing – and performing – in the Rubber Ball section, aiming for social status. A killer mistake, once we understand how the aspects correspond.
At first, I looked at the aspects opposite to each other:
- HEALTH <-> CAREER
- GROWTH <-> MONEY
- RELATIONSHIPS <-> LIFESTYLE
It became clear that the Rubber Balls can destroy the Crystal Balls in each of the 3 cases, but turned upside-down, the Crystal Balls would affect the Rubber Balls positively. The fundamental rule turned out as: Rubber Balls always follow Crystal Balls.
This insight was a real breakthrough that enabled us to develop a fundamental guideline on how to accomplish persistent financial success, a great career and a great lifestyle, by focussing on the essentially important things in life: Your overall physical and mental condition, the power of your relationships plus steep and constant learning. This can take you anywhere!
Quite some time later later, I had a conversation with a doctor about prescription drugs. He was telling me how the negative and painful side effects of those drugs are measured with patients. In order to determine the maximum amount of medication they can give to the patient without decreasing their quality of life too much, the patients were “scoring” themselves on a scale from 1:10 about how they feel – relative to the given dosage. I liked that approach, understanding that there can’t be absolute numbers for pain – and also not for happiness. While some people are totally happy making 3K a month, others making 30K don’t get along at all. So what matters is how you personally feel about your aspect, but not by absolute numbers.
I then added “The Grid” to the Happiness Circle. It allowed people to score themselves in each of the aspects. In order to make it easier for them to do so, I developed a worksheet asking aspect-related questions. The resulting number was then added to the grid for each aspect. The result was a characteristic “pattern” that reflects a persons current level of happiness. I shall write about Life Score patterns in another article more in detail, but just wanted to state right here that you can actually read a lot from it. You see immediately where a person is heading in their life, and whether they are “at risk” or “doing fine”. You can read this from the Rubber Ball Score – relative to the Crystal Ball Score. As Rubber Balls always follow Crystal Balls, each and every person should always strive for a higher Crystal Ball Score than Rubber Ball Score – for not jeopardizing their Foundation Of Life. Something to think about for successful top-managers, BTW.
The Happiness Circle has meanwhile traveled the globe. Many people on all continents and of all age groups and social backgrounds are using it to determine their direction of life. Life coaches, trainers and people working with people do. The Happiness Circle guides them to do the right things with their clients for achieving their goals, from which the “ultimate” goal is – and can only always be – HAPPINESS.
We will not stop taking this further. The Happiness Circle is a precious life-changer and I feel obliged to grant millions more people access to this valuable information. Imagine what a difference it makes, once people realize that their mental and physical condition as well as their relationship skills plus the fact that they have to maintain a steep learning curve is what really does create a happy life. How great would life then be?
Thank you for taking the time and for sharing this precious gift.Dr. Sven Goebel www.svengoebel.com